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I love Jesus Christ and devote my life to following Him. I'm madly in love with my husband jon. I'm the mother of the most perfect babies in the world. I'm a Senior Sales Associate at my beloved Anthropologie. I'm a reader, thinker, lover, believer and traveler. I'd trade in the chicago skyline for the pacific coast any day. i love a good vino. i love my books. i'm creative as creativity goes but always wanted to be a painter. i prefer letter writing over emailing. And I always try to be a kinder person.

Monday, August 23, 2010


Breastfeeding is hard. Any mother who has breastfed will tell you that at one point in the process (usually with their first baby), that it was really hard. Sometimes it hurts, some worry that their milk won't come in, some don't think their baby is getting enough, some babies have trouble latching, some women just don't have the support needed to be successful at it...there could be a million things that make it hard.

I breastfed Alivia (my firstborn) full-time for 14 months. I had severe breast pain for 8 solid weeks. I never had an over abundance of milk, so I was never sure if she was getting enough. But I had a ton of support...which I think is the reason I was successful.

Since then...I've sort of become a breastfeeding drill Sargent. Nothing irritates me more than the mom on a baby story who tries to breastfeed once, then because her baby doesn't cooperate, says she'll supplement until her milk comes in. I wish I could jump into her living room and let her know that her milk will NEVER come in unless she keeps on breastfeeding. Not only did she quit...but she's a horrible example to the millions of pregnant women out there wondering if they'll be able to nurse their babies.

I have a friend who struggled with some infertility. When she did get pregnant (praise the Lord), we had conversations about breastfeeding. I was for it, she was not. But when she did have her beautiful baby girl...I've never seen a mother work so hard to breastfeed. Her infertility caused her supply to be low, which meant she needed to supplement. While many mothers would just ditch the boob and stick to the formula, she was basically stuck at home in a rotation of breastfeeding, formula supplement, pumping, repeat. She did this for months...the mom who wasn't for breastfeeding while pregnant, became an amazing example of persevering through the hardest breastfeeding scenario and coming out successfully. I was so proud of her. I am so proud of her.

I have another friend who went into preterm labor and had her sweet boy ten weeks early. He was in the nicu for months. I wish I had a picture of her freezer. She could have fed a third world country with the amount of breastmilk she pumped and stored up for her baby when he was ready for it. It was unbelievable!

When I had Judah (my second born), breastfeeding felt second nature. The lactation consultant came in to teach me the proper latch (I'll admit that I needed a refreshers course. It had been over 2 years!). I got it abundant milk came in on day two and I didn't have any pain! I can't tell you what a great relief this was :-) The difference in difficulty from nursing my first born to nursing my second born was night and day!

I write all this as encouragement to you moms out there who are pregnant. You can do it. And if you struggled breastfeeding your first, your second may be a different story. Stick with it. Milk doesn't magically appear...your baby needs to nurse it in. The pain WILL go away. Your baby will get it and it does get easier! Get help from your lactation consultant...all hospitals have them...and you'll never meet women who want you to succeed more than them! How long a mother decides to nurse is up to her...set small goals. Start with three months...when you get there, it will be so second nature, another 9 months will seem like nothing!

God designed this. He designed this to nourish and protect your baby. It's the perfect amount. It's the perfect temperature. It's the perfect nutrient. Work for it...put in everything you have to succeed. You WILL succeed.


mommasblurbs said...

You are an amazing advocate! One of my goals in nursing is to become a lactation consultant! My views are nearly identical to yours... way to go momma!

Lindsey Lindstrom said...

That's awesome niki! I'm actually studying towards my lactation consultant certification! I've recently discovered it's what I want to do with my life once my kids are in school :)

Mary @The Sweet Bookshelf said...

I live in Scotland, and my midwife told me that we have the worst breastfeeding rate in the world. I was shocked. There are laws here to prevent you from breastfeeding in church, stores, etc. Even if you are covered. It disgusts me.

When I told friends here that I was going to breastfeed, ALL of them...every single one told me I wouldn't be able to do it and that I shouldn't because it is no different than formula. WOW. I was shocked. How could they be so ignorant, and how could they be so un-supportive??

I am 34 wks pregnant and have plenty of friends and family supporting me. I am going to breastfeeding workshops here, and attending breastfeeding support groups. My sisters all told me that if I can get through 6 wks, I can get through a year. Just to be committed and work at it and it will come. I'm SO ready. I'm committed to giving my baby the best!

Also, a high school friend announced on facebook that she would be formula feeding and she is proud of it. That even though she knows it isn't the best, it will work best for her lifestyle. People were actually congratulating her. I didn't say anything, but I felt that was selfish...knowing what is best for your baby but not giving it to them because you might be a little uncomfortable???? She had 40+ comments saying how wonderful it is that she is doing formula. I felt sorry for her and her baby.....

PS: I went to elementary and junior high with Jonathan!

Lindsey Lindstrom said...

Hi Mary!

Thanks for reading and commenting on my post! You CAN do it! It will be hard will be exhausting...but your efforts will be worth it! I was sore with alivia for 8 weeks. Once I got over that hump (and boy what a hump it was!) it was smooth sailing. I nursed her a solid 14 months and don't regret a minute of it.

I am most certainly a "breast is best" momma. I want to spend my life helping women succeed in giving their babies the nourishment God provided them with. Take advantage of the lactation consultants at the hospital (if there are any). If not, surround yourself with people who will support you through those first couple months of learning!

And of course, even though we've just met, if you ever need help or have questions, I'm happy to help if I can! Just send me an email :

If you don't mind me asking, how did you find my blog!?

Blessings to you in these last few weeks!

Mary @The Sweet Bookshelf said...

Thanks for the help! When your 2nd was born Jonathan posted your blog on his facebook, so I come back from time to time to see if you have posted anything!

Lindsey Lindstrom said...

Oh right!!! I forgot he had done that. I'm so glad! I wish that I had time to blog more! Maybe I'll write a new one today :)